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Question 1. Do I Believe It Is Possible?

Question 1. Do I Believe It Is Possible?

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Have you ever wondered, is it really possible for me to overcome stuttering or stammering or whatever it is that you may be struggling with in your speech? Have you ever wondered, is it actually possible for me to overcome this? I've been doing this for four decades! I've tried different programs, coaching, different techniques and tips and tricks, none of which really work! My speech struggles seem to come back or maybe get a little better. That doesn't get me to where I want to go. Have you ever thought, is it possible I could actually overcome this? Have you ever felt like a victim? Like, this is something that's just out of your control? 


We start to think, it's genetic, it's neurological. It's my brain. I can't control it. And so we feel kind of like victims, nothing I can do about it. Have you ever set expectations? Like, you know what, I am ready. I want to do this and do this hypnotism and take this program or that one,  and they promise that you can be basically cured. And so you do it! And you set those kinds of expectations, only to be disappointed. 


Have you ever just looked and said, Okay, I'm gonna just try to use these tips or tricks or techniques to focus on being able to say my name or being able to say these words, and you use them and they work temporarily. But they don't work all the time in every situation, and they don't work long term has that ever happened to you?  


Have there been times where you've been going through a program, and you've avoided speaking opportunities or avoided using what you're learning? Because you're not sure if it's going to work? It's you actually feeling more comfortable doing what you usually do.  Whatever that is, could be pushing outwards, it could be just staying quiet, it could be completely avoiding those situations. Have you done that? If so, we're going to address all of those things. In this video. 


My name is Michael Williams. And today, we're going to actually walk through five questions that you absolutely must ask and answer, if you really want to overcome stuttering and become an excellent speaker. When I use the word stuttering. I'm talking about stuttering, stammering, mumbling, speaking too fast, fear of public speaking. I'm talking about all those things. And so we're actually going to take this and we are going to break it down into five sections that go along with some videos I created. Right now, we're going to talk about the first question. And then in the next section, the next question and so forth. 


The first question that you must ask yourself, is this. Do I believe? Do I believe it's possible to overcome stuttering and become an excellent speaker? Do I believe it's possible? If you say no, no, I don't really believe it's possible; because I've had this for my whole life, I've been to speech therapy, I've done this, I've done that, it always comes back or it never really goes away. So I don't really believe it's possible.However,  if you're in that category, then more than likely, you probably wouldn't be watching this video..


 It is going to be very, very difficult for you to do anything about improving how you speak. To transform your speech, if you stay in the space of disbelief. Which brings me to the first category; disbelief. I don't believe it's possible. If you fall into that category, what I want to encourage you to do, is to go back and look at the evidence that's out there, again.Not just in my program, but look at other programs that have been out for decades and decades. Look at other people, look at historical figures, who have in fact, transformed their speech. King George VI was the king of the United Kingdom known as "Bertie" to family and friends; he was not expected to inherit the throne and spent the first half of his life out of the spotlight. He had developed a stammer early in his life which made him comfortable in his brother’s shadow. His brother ascended the throne and was known as Edward VIII.However, Edward abdicated to marry an American Socialite and George became the King. He had a speech therapist to help him in his first radio broadcast when Germany declared war on Britain. There is even a movie about their friendship and his dynamic transformation. I encourage you to watch "The King's Speech" directed by Tom Hooper and written by David Seidler. It's a Hollywood movie, so it's overly dramatic but the story is true in many ways, he did have a stammering problem and he did overcome it to become a great speaker. Take some time to watch this movie, when you’re asking yourself the question at the end. Another, more recent, example of someone who refused to stay in the space of disbelief was America's 2021-2025 President Joe Biden. Joe has struggled with a stammer throughout his life. So the evidence is there that it's possible, no matter how severe you might be, it is possible. Here is an interview on CNN Joe Biden talks about how he overcame his stutter. His mother believed in him, which made him believe in himself. You don’t need anyone to believe for you, so long as you believe but you first have to choose. 


The first category is disbelief. The second category is doubt. “Well, I'm not sure I think it's possible”. “Maybe it's possible for other people, but not for me”, or “I could do it. I don't know if I would do all the work if I'm willing. But yeah, I think it's, I think it's probably possible”. This category is one who doubts. They don't disbelieve. They don't say no, it's not possible but they have their doubts. I've been among their organizations, I’ve seen people doubt that this can be overcome completely. They say, “we're going to just accept this, accept ourselves as we are”. Which I'm not saying we shouldn't accept ourselves the way we are. But to say “we're going to accept stuttering as a part of our life and just deal with it”? Is that really what you want? Do you doubt it's possible to improve this area for yourself? There is disbelief and then there is belief, there is doubt and there is faith. Where there's hope there's confidence that, yes, I do believe it's possible. I do believe that it's possible for me, I believe that this is something I can achieve that I can actually overcome stuttering and become an excellent speaker. And a part of this has to do with these words that you and I are talking about right now, that have to do with belief. So if you go back, and you look at the root of these words, and where they come from the word belief or faith, or confidence. They all have similar roots, they're all related. So when you believe in something, you have faith in it. When you believe something, and you have faith in it, you are confident in it. Another word that we need to add in here is trust. Right, to confide in when you confide in someone, you believe in them, you have faith in them, you trust them. You trust that they're going to do what they said they were going to do. Or if they say that they're not going to do something you trust them. You believe them and have faith which gives you confidence. 


You have to believe that you're capable of doing what you want to do. You have to trust you are going to do what you tell yourself you are going to do. This is very, very important. Because if you believe that, it is in fact, possible, for you to overcome stuttering or stammering or speaking too fast, and become an expert speaker! If you believe, that means you have faith that it's possible. This means you’re confident that it's something that you can accomplish. That same confidence helps you to accomplish your goal. And we're going to talk about this idea of trusting yourself and how this ties in with the very last question. So we'll talk about this, we'll go a little deeper into this trust thing in the very last video. First in this section, the question that I want you to ask yourself is; “Do I believe that it's possible for me to overcome stuttering and become an excellent speaker?” This is not just about overcoming stuttering or stopping stuttering. It's also about taking that experience of belief, faith, and trust in yourself; and taking advantage of this process. To have the confidence to take your speech to a whole new level, where you will be able to say what you want, when you want, the way that you want. You'll be able to speak so that people listen and want to listen. You'll become more persuasive, and more influential. When you speak, you'll be able to serve at higher levels, there are things that you may feel called to do in life goals or maybe there dreams that you have. Things you had disbelief you could do because of the disbelief that you could transform your speech. Or maybe you feel slowed down or limited because of your speech, you might already be very successful. But you know, you can be even more successful! You might say to yourself, “I could have a greater impact I can serve at a higher level if I wasn't struggling with my speech”. So if you fall into that category, then the question is, do you believe that you can actually transcend this and become an excellent speaker? If you believe that it's possible, then that's going to take us to our next question that we'll talk about in the next section. So ask yourself that question. And then be honest with yourself, do I fall into which one of these categories that I disbelieve it or do I doubt whether it's possible? Or do I believe that it's possible? Okay, so join me in the next video as we walk through our second question.

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