7 Common Speaking Challenges Part 1: Negative Anticipation
Have you ever had an important speaking opportunity come up, and you start to get worried about it, you're anxious about it, you dreaded it. In fact, you even started thinking about the fact that you probably wouldn't perform well, because you hadn't performed well, in the past that you might get stuck, you might lose your train of thought, you might speak too fast. Has that ever happened to you? It has happened to me and I have made it my mission to correct speech for the past 12 years. In this series, we're going to be talking about seven of the most common speaking challenges that many people have. First up is Negative Anticipation.
Negative Anticipation is where we assign an outcome to something that hasn't happened yet. When we are anxious about something, we become nervous about something, and we start to worry about something that hasn't happened yet. One of the byproducts of this thinking and feeling is we're setting ourselves up for failure. That's why we call this negative anticipation.
Let’s define this.Negative anticipation. Anticipation is an interesting word. It's not a negative word. And often, we use this word in a positive way. But I want us to examine this word a little bit, because I think he can help us understand what happens to us in the power of our mind, and our thoughts and our imagination, and our visualization and so forth. Anticipate comes from the noun of action from past participle stem of anticipare 'take care of ahead of time'. Consider how you might be anticipating something, and especially when you think about negatively anticipating what you're doing is in your mind, using your thoughts, using your imagination, you are going forward into the future. And you're grabbing hold of an experience that hasn't happened yet.
When you take something that has not happened yet, and you're bring it into the present for yourself. You're imagining, visualizing, and emotionalizing, something that actually hasn't happened yet. And when you do this with a failure mindset, you're actually putting a negative spin on it. Inadvertently, you're saying that you hope that this negative thing doesn't happen, or you believe that this negative thing is going to happen? You start to picture it and see it and experience it emotionally. So you're going ahead into the future, grabbing something that hasn't happened yet pulling it into yourself.
When you routinely envision something that has not happened yet, you are making a mental imprint. Persistent negative mental imprints are actually preparing you to fail. By visualizing poor performance, you reduce the likelihood of performing well. You're emotionalizing and actually starting to feel the way you would feel if you didn't perform well. You are thinking about it often talking about verbalizing what it would be like if you did not perform well. How can we combat this cycle of poor mental imprinting and poor attending performance?
What can I do about negative anticipation? The obvious thing to do is remove the word negative anticipation. We want to replace it with positive. Positively anticipate your performance and your future experiences. How do we create positive anticipation? We create positive mental imprints. We practice daily looking forward to our speech and interactions.
The Pro90d Ultimate Smooth Speech System provides a daily routine and prescribes the exact things that you need to do to change what you think on a moment-by-moment basis. We give you exactly what you need to do, to prepare yourself speech-wise to physically be able to speak well. Some of these exercises may include, models to change your style of speaking, change the way you physically speak, change the way you breathe, change the way you use your body language to change the way you think about yourself as a speaker, and about the speaking situations.
One of the first things that happens to my students and clients is that they start feeling more confident. And guess what happens, they stop negatively anticipating future experiences. And ultimately, we want to get to the place where we don't anticipate at all for the most part unless it's something that you want to prepare for positively. Being able to say what they want to say, and having the confidence to express it at that moment. But that takes practice, that is where these advanced exercises come into play.
Sample Daily Exercise from Pro90d
Positive Mental Imprinting: To change your experiences and start changing your speech. Start thinking about experiences in a constructive way, start thinking about something that would call Vic and Rick. It will constructively frame how you think about how you want to perform, the value that you want to give the way, and how you want to impact the other person. Consider how you want to be perceived, how you want to feel, in that speaking situation, and then we give you the steps that you need to change the way you anticipate. Go into the future, grab that future event and bring it into yourself.
I hope this piece 1 of our 7 part series was informative. We offer the Pro90d training in different formats to meet your needs and strive for it to meet the needs of many more students in the future. If you have comments, requests, or feedback please visit our site, send a DM, or comment below.